Spiders are just about as unlike humans as it is possible to be. They have eight eyes, eight legs, skeletons on the outside of their bodies, and fangs that can penetrate the skin and inject venom. It shouldn’t be too surprising that roughly 50% of women and 10% of men display symptoms of arachnophobia, except when you consider that most spiders are tiny, delicate creatures that are not capable of killing or even harming animals of our size.
This article will tell you if you are one of the 10% of men or 50% of women who qualify as arachnophobic, theories as to the reason why people are so terrified of spiders, and what you can do about it if you are.
Afraid of Spiders?
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Arachnophobia vs. General Dislike
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If you are a true arachnophobic, your fear of spiders reflects the following features of a specific phobia, as established by the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, or DSM:
- Persistent and Excessive Fear You probably don’t just grimace when you see an eight-legged creepy crawler every once in a while, but instead climb onto the nearest and tallest item of furniture and yell for help if someone even suggests that there might be a spider nearby. Both the presence and even the anticipation of spiders causes you to enter a state of near panic, which can include a rapid heart rate, shortness of breath, sweating, shaking, screaming, or crying. Your fear response may also be triggered by webs, or even very realistic pictures of spiders.
- Immediate Fear Response As far as you are concerned, a spider in the near vicinity, such as on a wall or under a chair, is just about as terrifying as a spider in your hair-- you don’t have to wait for it to appear there to freak out. When you notice a spider or even suspect you might see one, your fear and panic are likely to be immediate. However, in some arachnophobics, the presence or perceived presence of a spider only sometimes but not always provokes a panic attack. This is known as the difference between a situationally bound and a situationally predisposed phobic reaction.
- Awareness that the Fear is Excessive If you are an adult, you probably know that common spiders can’t hurt you, and that moreover, they wouldn’t want to even if they could because you could crush them in an instant if you wanted to. However, this awareness is not enough to keep you from feeling intense and overwhelming fear. On the other hand, arachnophobic children may not realize that their fear is excessive.
- Avoidance of Spiders that Interferes with Functioning You avoid spiders at all costs, even if it means spending hours cleaning or sleeping at a friend’s house if you see a spider where you live, or avoiding the outdoors or your basement because you may run into one. It may interfere with how you spend your time, affect your relationships or ability to work or become a psychological burden.
Also, your fear response must not be merely a symptom related to another disorder, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder or OCD (for example, the compulsion to keep your house clean and spider-free), or panic disorder (panic attacks that frequently occur in response to various unrelated stimuli). If you are under 18, you must have been afraid of spiders to an extreme degree for least six months for you to be considered arachnophobic.
Why Do We Fear Spiders?
The cause of arachnophobia is not well understood, though theories do exist.
One theory based on evolutionary psychology is that because our ancestors feared spiders, we do too. After all, there are some poisonous species of spider, and if a person takes special care to avoid spiders and to live in a spider-free zone, they are technically slightly more likely to survive than a person who doesn’t, giving the arachnophobic individual a possible evolutionary advantage. Also, people living in the Dark Ages believed that spiders contaminated food and water (though this was not true), which may have led us to associate them with mortal dangers such as starvation and death.
Another theory is that the fear of spiders is culturally dependant. In some cultures, spiders are widely feared, whereas in others they are a dietary staple.
Also, as is the case with many phobias, arachnophobia may also simply be due to the way you were raised—for example, if you had a parent or other relative who was arachnophobic and taught you that spiders were a cause for alarm. Interestingly, much of this is picked up through visual learning. Your parents may not have taught you to fear spiders, but when you witnessed their fear, you started to fear it too.
How to Defeat Your Spider Phobia at Home
Arachnophobia is usually treated via systematic desensitization, also known as exposure therapy. Systematic desensitization involves repeatedly exposing a person to the object of their fear in a safe and controlled manner.
To expose yourself to spiders in a safe and controlled manner, it is a good idea to prepare yourself via relaxation techniques, and by addressing and changing any negative beliefs and thought patterns that may be increasing your fear experience.
Relaxation techniques you can use include controlled breathing, self-hypnosis, and visualization routines that put you in a calm, relaxed state.
You can figure out what negative beliefs and thought patterns might be making your anxiety worse by writing about your fear of spiders. By writing out your thoughts on spiders, you can pick out specific beliefs and repeating thoughts that are untrue or non-useful and replace them with more positive beliefs and thought patterns, and practice running those positive beliefs and thought patterns through your head as you imagine seeing a spider.
Once you have prepared yourself, you can practice “exposing” yourself to spiders by:
- Imagining spiders until you no longer fear them.
- Looking at photos of spiders until you no longer fear them.
- Looking at videos of spiders until you no longer fear them.
- Looking directly at spiders until you no longer fear them.
- Interacting with spiders until you no longer fear them.
The key is commitment. Start at the first step and continue it repeatedly until the fear goes away. Only once it's gone away, move to the second step. It can take hours to days, but over time that fear will decrease. Remember, spiders are not nearly as dangerous as you thought (only about four are fatal in the world, and most people survive the bites without help – though getting help is still a good idea), and if your fear is controlling you it is worth treating.
By continuing this strategy even after your fear of spiders occurs, you can keep it away. You can also decrease your overall anxiety, which in turn will decrease the anxiety you have when you see spiders.
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